What Are We? A Tool for Understanding Your Relationships Are you trying to understand a connection-friendship, romance, family-and can't name what is happening?
Most people rely on instinct or guesswork.
Relational Code Theory gives you a clear, structured way to finally understand
what is actually happening between you and another person.
What Are We? is a practical and profound tool for bringing clarity to your relational world. Instead of vague labels or overthinking, this method helps you map, measure, and make sense of your relationships with precision.
This book helps you: -
Understand your relational dynamics instead of analysing them in circles
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See patterns clearly across friendships, romances, and family bonds
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Identify your strengths, challenges, and blind spots in any connection
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Differentiate emotional chemistry from compatibility
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Track how relationships evolve over time
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Make grounded decisions about closeness, distance, commitment, or change
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Develop language to communicate relational needs with clarity
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Feel more agency and peace in your interpersonal life
Inside the book, you'll find: -
The full Relational Signature system
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A detailed questionnaire to evaluate each connection
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A visual map for interpreting your results
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Clear examples, diagrams, and guidance
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A method suitable for individuals, couples, friends, and therapists
Who is this book for? This tool is for anyone who wants to understand relationships with more depth and less confusion-especially if you value emotional intelligence, personal growth, psychology, or intentional living.
What Are We? is especially powerful for people who relate to the world through imagination, pattern-making, or emotional intensity-including those who:
- Build stories quickly If you tend to fantasise, idealise, or create narratives around someone before reality fully unfolds, this tool helps ground your perception in what is
