Many people enjoy great lives while others seem to only have lives of hellish torment. While circumstances can play a role, this is often not the case. In fact, many times we create our own hells. In this first book in a planned series of Hells We Create we examine relationships...more to the point, the ways many of us create our own hellish relationships and how we can change what we are doing. This is not to say that we can always control what happens in a relationship, but often there are things we subconsciously doing to sabotage or otherwise create the very conditions within we hope to avoid. This is especially so if we bounce from one failed relationship to the next. As has been stated repeatedly in other contexts: Insanity is doing the same thing again and again expecting different results. This book was written for those who have come to the conclusion that they must do something different if they are to have a lasting, fulfilling relationship. By considering the issue in three parts, this books takes readers from their current breakup to the steps needed to make needed changes to what a sound relationship looks like. Without being "preachy" it examines the most common mistakes many make in their relationships. It considers how to make the changes necessary to avoid creating personal hells. Applying various concepts in Psychology and Sociology, this book also explains how we can learn more about ourselves so that we can grow and enjoy better partnerships of all kinds, not just romantic. But, at the core is the romance, the coupling, the application to people who simply want to belong to another. This bond, this love that can exists and transform people is central to this book. The first in the Changing Lives series of books, The Hells We Create from the Heavens We Are Given: Relationships takes readers through the role of values, or beliefs in our lives. The simple fact is that our beliefs play a key role in all we do from who we find attractive to whom we decide to marry. Values play a role in how well we manage to hold on to our mate. Our values, and theirs, play pivotal roles in whether we work together or break apart. Further, values play a key role in our lives because they shape how we make choices. Every choice is about filling a need of some kind. Yet, we only find ways to fill our needs according to our personal values. Our beliefs are always a factor in our relationships. The closer to similar our values with another person, the better the odds we will stick it out long term. Yet, more is needed. Another factor is time. Time is the one thing we all possess equally. And it is the one thing that decides whether we couple or not and whether we stay together or not. This unique book takes the reader through the necessary steps of self-examination, introspection, and self-awareness. It is only by knowing ourselves fully that we can move on from bad relationships to those which are fulfilling and heavenly. Only by resolving personal issues can we replace the hells we create with the heavens we deserve. For anyone wanting to overcome the problems which seem to plague every new relationship from the start, The Hells We Create from the Heavens We Are Given is a Must Read.
