Julie Sondra Decker

The Invisible Orientation : An Introduction to Asexuality

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<b>A finalist for the 2015 LAMBDA Literary Award.</b> <p></p> <b>What if you weren't sexually attracted to anyone?</b> <p></p>A growing number of people are identifying as asexual. They aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and they consider it a sexual orientation--like gay, straight, or bisexual. <p></p>Asexuality is the invisible orientation. Most people believe that &quot;everyone&quot; wants sex, that &quot;everyone&quot; understands what it means to be attracted to other people, and that &quot;everyone&quot; wants to date and mate. But that's where asexual people are left out--they don't find other people sexually attractive, and if and when they say so, they are very rarely treated as though that's okay. <p></p>When an asexual person comes out, alarming reactions regularly follow; loved ones fear that an asexual person is sick, or psychologically warped, or suffering from abuse. Critics confront asexual people with accusations of following a fad, hiding homosexuality, or making excuses for romantic failures. And all of this contributes to a discouraging master narrative: there is no such thing as &quot;asexual.&quot; Being an asexual person is a lie or an illness, and it needs to be fixed. <p></p>In <i>The Invisible Orientation</i>, Julie Sondra Decker outlines what asexuality is, counters misconceptions, provides resources, and puts asexual people's experiences in context as they move through a very sexualized world. It includes information for asexual people to help understand their orientation and what it means for their relationships, as well as tips and facts for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.

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A finalist for the 2015 LAMBDA Literary Award.

What if you weren't sexually attracted to anyone?

A growing number of people are identifying as asexual. They aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and they consider it a sexual orientation--like gay, straight, or bisexual.

Asexuality is the invisible orientation. Most people believe that "everyone" wants sex, that "everyone" understands what it means to be attracted to other people, and that "everyone" wants to date and mate. But that's where asexual people are left out--they don't find other people sexually attractive, and if and when they say so, they are very rarely treated as though that's okay.

When an asexual person comes out, alarming reactions regularly follow; loved ones fear that an asexual person is sick, or psychologically warped, or suffering from abuse. Critics confront asexual people with accusations of following a fad, hiding homosexuality, or making excuses for romantic failures. And all of this contributes to a discouraging master narrative: there is no such thing as "asexual." Being an asexual person is a lie or an illness, and it needs to be fixed.

In The Invisible Orientation, Julie Sondra Decker outlines what asexuality is, counters misconceptions, provides resources, and puts asexual people's experiences in context as they move through a very sexualized world. It includes information for asexual people to help understand their orientation and what it means for their relationships, as well as tips and facts for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.A finalist for the 2015 LAMBDA Literary Award.

What if you weren’t sexually attracted to anyone?

A growing number of people are identifying as asexual. They aren’t sexually attracted to anyone, and they consider it a sexual orientation—like gay, straight, or bisexual.

Asexuality is the invisible orientation. Most people believe that “everyone” wants sex, that “everyone” understands what it means to be attracted to other people, and that “everyone” wants to date and mate. But that’s where asexual people are left out—they don’t find other people sexually attractive, and if and when they say so, they are very rarely treated as though that’s okay.

When an asexual person comes out, alarming reactions regularly follow; loved ones fear that an asexual person is sick, or psychologically warped, or suffering from abuse. Critics confront asexual people with accusations of following a fad, hiding homosexuality, or making excuses for romantic failures. And all of this contributes to a discouraging master narrative: there is no such thing as “asexual.” Being an asexual person is a lie or an illness, and it needs to be fixed.

In The Invisible Orientation, Julie Sondra Decker outlines what asexuality is, counters misconceptions, provides resources, and puts asexual people’s experiences in context as they move through a very sexualized world. It includes information for asexual people to help understand their orientation and what it means for their relationships, as well as tips and facts for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.

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Publisher
Carrel Books
Book Format
Hardcover
Original Languages
English
Number of Pages
240
Author
Julie Sondra Decker
ISBN-13
9781631440021
Publication Date
September, 2014
Assembled Product Dimensions (L x W x H)
9.00 x 6.00 x 1.00 Inches
ISBN-10
1631440020

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This book is a helpful primer on the orientation of asexuality. I especially appreciated Decker's care and breadth in defining terms, including those not specifically limited to the asexuality spectrum. There was a bit of repetition and it did feel like the issue was being treated (if possible) too gingerly. I came away feeling like those who identify as asexual should expect some level of persecution and I think a bit less of the padding for the sake of inclusion could have benefitted the narrative. Overall, this is a quick read and a great introduction and reference for just about anyone, whether he/she (ze) identifies as a-spec or not.


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