Pre-Owned For When Everything Is Burning (Paperback)

This one is a little different.


If you feel like the world forgot to prepare a spot for you, this is for you.


If you feel like you were born into the wrong timeline, the wrong culture, or on the wrong planet, this is for you.


If you've ever found yourself questioning your humanity and wondering if you are "something else," this is for you.


If you feel like your life has been an endless quest for something you haven't found, this is for you.


If you feel more aware of the pain, the suffering, the darkness, and the brokenness of the world, this is for you.


If you relate to these words, please know that I see you. That you aren't anywhere near as alone as you feel. That there are others like you. Your pain is real and valid, even if nobody around you understands it.

You don't have to hide anymore. You don't have to keep wearing that brave face for everyone else's benefit, even when it feels like you're drowning inside. You can face the darkness head-on, and I can teach you how.


First, we have to identify the lies the world tells you and how to stop listening to them. There are six of them in particular that we hear over and over again:


-Everything is your fault


-You can't change anything


-You're missing something


-What feels true is true


-You're not trying hard enough


-You aren't ready


Most people believe and align with these lies. You don't have to. If you learn how to recognize them and speak truth to them over and over again, they start to quiet down. This lets you be you again, instead of what the world tries to make you into.


Second, we have to look at the automatic and subconscious choices your mind makes throughout your day. Most of your life is lived automatically based on programs and algorithms that are pre-loaded for you. You can change most of them. You can use neurological chainsaws to cut through the habits and routines, to reshape your mental processes into whatever you want them to be.


This work is a blend of psychology, neuroscience, and memoirs. Scattered in between the strategies and concepts are paired journal entries. Passages written by someone in their darkest hour, someone who resents the fact that they were forced to exist, and responses written by someone who has conquered their darkest hour and knows the way out. These passages add a personal, intimate, and raw touch for the reader.


This book is for those whose needs run deeper. For people whose problems cannot be solved with a lavish vacation and regular spa days. For people more in need of a renovation than a remodeling. If that sounds like you, then this work is for you.